nothing stays the same…

My life since I came back from Manila to get Maisie has been really exhausting.  Work is so toxic and I am getting really fed up with the work loads plus Maisie is stressing me out to the point that I really feel so frustrated.  I feel like I don’t know how to be a parent anymore and I don’t know how to discipline her anymore.   I always tell her she needs to be patient and be considerate because it’s just the two of us now and I can’t always be besides her all the time.  I am thankful of friends/housemates because they are my family here and they support and help me with everything, if not for them I already gave up and give Maisie back to my mom.

But I am happy, he told me I should be proud of myself, and if I come to think of it, I am! It’s not easy being a single parent in a foreign country but I think I am coping up well, it’s really tiring and sometimes I just want to cry, in fact there are few times already that I cried myself to sleep because I really feel so frustrated.  But I love her and even though sometimes I feel like giving up and I’m thinking of giving her back to my mom, I still can’t do it.  It’s only been a month since she started living with me, and I cannot push her to adjust to this new life overnight and I have to remind myself that.

and I definitely need a new job, a day job preferably.

I need something to distract me as well, I’m falling and it’s scaring the hell out of me.

I dreamt of you the other night and it was not pleasant, you said goodbye and I just stood frozen while you walk away and a good friend was standing besides me comforting me, I wasn’t crying but it felt so real and it felt like dying.  It’s so weird and you told me it’s not real.  You’re not mine, you will never be but why do I have this feeling that my world will fall apart if I lose you?

beautiful paradox

Wow! it has been awhile since I updated this blog.  I have been really busy with “real” life, I’m a mother again!

Now that Maisie is finally with me I’d be more busy and less blogging… hahaha that’s not really an excuse, although I was really busy but I try to keep my thoughts offline for now so all my thoughts are jot down on my thoughtback account which is private.

My mind is a mess and Gayla can second that! hahaha she was right, I was the one who is complicating things when it’s very simple!  What to do? I’m a paradox!  or I just simply don’t know what I really want!

Just like today… I want to change my domain name, unixbitch.com doesn’t seem to make sense anymore… but then I don’t know which domain name I want, I can’t think of anything but I know I want to change it, then suddenly I changed my mind.. I’ll keep it!

I met a nice guy last week and he keeps telling me he wants me and I keep telling him he doesn’t because I’m complicated!  I really think I am… what do you think Gayla? hahaha I don’t know why but I got this strange notion that every man here in Singapore is only after sex… and for a guy who just met me and told me he wants me forever, that’s beyond insane! and c’mon! I am not naive!  and forever only exist in fairy tales and I’m not a little girl anymore to believe that…

I wonder why the universe is so fucked up and I’m a mess…  but I’m happy, and I’ve never been happier compare to my first year here in Singapore…

so… I’ll live one day at a time!

ugh, my life!

Everything seems to be really perfect.  I was feeling extremely happy for the past few days, then BHAM!

Shit it stings! I never expected it would hurt like this, but who am I kidding, I know it’s gonna happen sooner or later, but just not today.

I hate myself for being stupid all the time!

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UTTERLY POINTLESS!

 

di nyo magets? sorry naman! ako din eh..

??discombobulated…

What part of it was real??

:(

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this is what happens when you keep pushing people away

ME :
it feels awkward talking to you now.. I don’t know.. it feels like you still hold a grudge because of what I did… or maybe it’s just me… yeah I think it’s just me… anyway, have a great night ahead $@#%.. it was nice knowing you

HIM :
well….I have no grudge….
I was hurt a bit…
but..I got over it…
now we are friends…
but…I do not think I can go back to the days we used to…that is all

We were really good friends until we got too involved and it freaked me out and I suddenly stopped talking to him, I suddenly went gone! I just told him I respect that… if he can’t go back to they way we used to… sad and totally my fault… at least I’ve learned my lessons now, though I am not sure if I will stop pushing people away… damn I’m fucked up!

death ends life, not a relationship

Kanagasabapathy “Saba”

Our manager got a call from India about Saba’s death last friday and it just hit me that I need to stop whining. I was literally crying on my desk while I was working after our manager gave a final announcement that he died.  He was one of the best guy in the team.

He was the one who raised the request for my account creations when I joined the team, he was very friendly. He was not just a colleague or a mate, he was a good friend, a brother and a mentor. He was an inspiration. He went back home to his homeland for his birthday and he was so excited, he was even facebook-ing before the car accident happened that caused his death . He used to always give me pranks calls on my desk phone before he goes home, or tease me and try to snatch my food or drinks. He was a good man and it was a great loss for his loved ones and for the team.

He will surely be missed and he will always be in our thoughts and prayers.